What is "MY" Cross?

I wonder how many followers of Jesus have never truly picked up their cross because they didn’t know what it was.  They have not understood that picking up your cross is DYING TO SELF.

DYING TO SELF is when you are forgotten, or neglected, or purposely provoked, and you don't sting and hurt with the insult or the oversight. But instead your heart is content, knowing your Father in Heaven understands you, just like Jesus  did. 

DYING TO SELF is when your wishes are crossed, your advice disregarded, your opinions ridiculed, and you refuse to let anger rise in your heart, or even defend yourself. But instead you take it all loving silence just like Jesus did.

DYING TO SELF is when you lovingly and patiently bear any disorder, any irregularity, any annoyance, any disruption, when you are content with any food, any offering, any climate, any people, when you can receive correction and reproof from one of less stature than yourself and can submit inwardly as well as outwardly, washing the feet of those who reject you,  just like Jesus did.  DYING TO SELF is your cross.